Dear Diary,
Today, I want to discuss romantic relationships. Even though I’ve never been in one, I still feel compelled to explore this topic. Why? It’s because I don’t have anything better to do.
The Reality of Marriage and Relationships
I’ve heard people say that marriage or relationships require hard work and significant effort to improve. Although I understand the emotion behind this statement, it got me thinking. Is it going to be that difficult? The way people talk about loving relationships often makes them sound less loving.
The Illusion of Fairy Tales
We grew up with romantic fairy tales that depicted love as a prince rescuing a princess, followed by a happily ever after. These stories created an illusion of love that I once believed in. I saw my “prince” in every guy I met. Over time, I learned that I am the only one who can truly be there for myself.
Learning to Love Yourself
Previously, I didn’t understand the idea that you need to love yourself before loving someone else. After a few years and many lessons, the concept started to make sense. Loving yourself involves more than standing in front of a mirror and saying, “I love you.” It means respecting yourself in every aspect of life. It requires spending time with yourself as you would with others. That is true self-love, and if you practice it, nothing bad will happen.
Insights from an Interview
I recently watched an interview with a well-known figure who discussed their relationship. They talked about loving each other and the importance of growing together. According to them, being there for each other during low moments defines true love. This perspective resonated with me, but one part didn’t sit right. They mentioned, “My partner and I have said the most horrible things to each other,” and yet, they are still together.
The Problem with Hurtful Words
Every couple has disagreements, but I struggle to understand how one can say the most hurtful things to their partner. Even in moments of anger, such words should be avoided. I know that hurtful comments can leave lasting scars. Even if I forget, the other person remembers and gets hurt each time they think about it.
The Importance of Respect and Kindness
Perhaps the real work in relationships lies in showing respect and kindness. Instead of letting anger and ego drive us, we should address issues with understanding and listen with an open heart. The sacrifices and buried resentment can make relationships feel like hard work, especially when someone feels mistreated.
Relationships Beyond Romance
This principle applies not only to romantic relationships but to every relationship you build in your life.